Where is your office located?
My office is in Winsor Office Plaza, near the corner of County Road B2 and Fairview Avenue in Roseville (Twin Cities). The office is on the ground floor. Follow the signs to Suite 102 as you enter the front door.
1935 W. County Road B2 Suite #102 St. Paul, MN 55113
Where do I park?
Is there a bathroom available?
How long is a typical session?
How do I pay?
How do I make an appointment?
What is the best way to get in touch with you?
What is your cancellation policy?
What can I expect from my first couple’s coaching session?
The initial consult for couples therapy is slightly extended (90 minutes) for two primary reasons. The first is to allow both parties to have a proper opportunity to share and feel heard about why they sought out therapy. The second is for me to acquire some preliminary information to develop an overall picture of your situation and begin to create a plan for following sessions. Depending on an individual couple’s circumstances, this process may carry over into the second session.
Does going to therapy mean I’m weak?
With whom do you work?
I work with adults of all ages. Although I don’t offer therapy directly to those under 18, there are circumstances where it may be relevant to the therapy to have your child/children attend.
What is your educational background?
Do you offer video sessions?
Do you work with people from diverse backgrounds?
I sure do! As a migrant myself (Australia to the US) and being in a cross-cultural marriage (Caitlin grew up in the US), I have a unique perspective on cultural differences and relationship challenges. In addition, before becoming a therapist, I travelled extensively throughout Asia and Europe. One of the joys of what I do is working with people from culturally diverse backgrounds.
Are you a cat or dog person?
Have you been to therapy yourself?
Yes, and I still do. In addition to regular professional supervision, in Australia, attending therapy was actually a requirement of my Counselling training.
There’s no shame in having issues and baggage; it’s part of being human. People with mental health issues aren’t a worry to me; those who think they have no issues are the worry.
Are you a Christian counselor?
Do you take notes?
Do I have to lie on a couch?
Is our work confidential?
Confidentiality can be complex, especially when working with couples. Whilst I find my approach works well, I acknowledge this can be a point of anxiety for people. I am happy to discuss this further with you as needed.
The main caveat to this approach is if there’s a significant breach of trust, such as infidelity or an undisclosed addiction. Again, we can discuss this further as needed.
Do couples fight in front of you?
Am I allowed to ask personal questions?
Sure, if I’m allowed to refuse to answer. I’m joking. Generally, I am quite open. During a session, I sometimes self-disclose (sharing something from my life). I do this when I believe what I will share is therapeutically relevant. Sometimes, however, I will intervene and re-direct the conversation if I feel a discussion is becoming unproductive.
Side note: I find for people who wish to get to know me and my approach better, listening to my podcast Convergently Speaking is helpful.
Can you diagnose?
No, if you believe you have a relevant physical or mental health diagnosis, please let me know; however, if you are seeking a diagnosis, we can discuss referral options to receive a formal assessment. My colleague, Steven Wiese, is a psychologist who can provide mental health diagnoses.
I often work with couples when one or both partners are also being treated by another therapist or health professional. I aim to work collaboratively with your other providers when this is the case.